Welcome to Day 5 in our Clutter-Free Challenge.
I’m so
proud of all of you for signing up and making it through the first
week. To celebrate, my friend Karen Ehman has offered to do a
giveaway! She’s giving away a signed copy of her book, “The Complete Guide to Getting and Staying Organized,”
plus a $10 gift card to Target so you can treat yourself to some
organizing products. We’ll tell you how to enter at the end of this
post. Karen will also be helping me moderate comments while I’m out of
town.
Today, we are going to start looking at removing some of the clutter in our schedules. So let’s get started.
There’s nothing like a new year to bring hope and optimism into our
hearts. This year, we promise ourselves, is the year we get our act
together. This year we will get and stay organized, start exercising
and lose weight! This year we will read the Bible completely through,
make more time for family get-togethers, pray nightly with our children
and have a date-night with our husbands. Certainly we are intelligent,
competent women … we can do this … right?
But then January 15th rolls around, or February 15th, or if you are
truly motivated you’ll make it to March, and then life overwhelms yet
again. Sigh … it gets so tiresome to feel defeated.
I thought the problem was always me. I wasn’t self-disciplined
enough, or I didn’t work smart enough. I’d tell myself I lacked
perseverance, and didn’t have what it takes to stick with something.
Basically, I’d beat myself up mentally and just give up feeling like a
failure once again.
But then I learned this simple principle that changed the way I think: For every “yes” there has to be a “no.” Let me explain.
I can’t add something new to my schedule (like reading the Bible
through in a year) without saying no to something else (like the morning
news). You see, if I’m already feeling maxed out, how can I possibly
add something to an overcrowded schedule? I only have so much time and
energy. I can’t pretend that I can do everything, and just keep piling
more on. That simply sets me up to fail. Some things have to go to
make room for the new.
I imagine you’ve done the same thing. Most of us underestimate the
amount of time things take. And we overestimate our uninterrupted time
to accomplish them. I’m the queen of this. Here’s just one small
example. I can never just run in and out of a store quickly, unlike my
husband. If my husband says he’s going to the store for milk – he’s
home in 15 minutes. That same trip will take me at least 30 minutes,
and honestly, usually an hour. I have no explanation for this. My
husband just rolls his eyes when I say I’m making a “quick” trip to the
store. Everything just takes me longer.
That’s my reality. So, armed with the truths that for every yes we
have to say no, and everything takes longer than we think, we are going
to take a look at that master list of responsibilities you started a few
days ago. I still don’t want you to worry about organizing it.
Instead, can you identify which of those items are God’s priorities for you right now?
If that’s a hard question to answer, I understand. Sometimes we get
so busy with “good” things, that we get confused with what God might
really be asking us to do. You see, we can have schedules full of good
things, but still be missing out on the best things. And by “best
things” I mean God’s best for you at this time in your life.
When I get confused on my priorities, I ask myself some questions. Maybe these will help you too:
1. What can only I do? (only I can take care of my health, be my children’s mother and my husband’s wife – among other things)
2. What responsibilities has God already given me? (stewarding my faith, home, finances, talents, etc.)
3. How well am I doing in those areas? (ouch … this one usually hurts)
4. What has God asked me to do that I haven’t done yet? (ouch again …)
5. What passion has God put in my heart? (for me that’s writing and ministering to women)
Once you are clear on your priorities … God’s priorities for you …
then start to edit that list. I’m pretty sure there’s lots on that list
you shouldn’t be doing. What can you remove? Is there anything …
1. You don’t want to do any more,
2. You don’t need to do anymore but it’s habit,
3. God has clearly called you away from it but you haven’t made the break.
I’m not saying you should start indiscriminately slashing
responsibilities from that list. Do NOT call your boss and say “Glynnis
told me to quit!” Or email your women’s ministry director to resign
from overseeing this year’s retreat. No, please don’t do that.
Instead, prayerfully consider if there might be responsibilities you
need to resign from after fulfilling your commitment. Are there
expectations you’ve put on yourself you can release? Are there tasks
you can delegate to someone else?
Today is an editing day. Before we can find any freedom in our
schedules, we have to de-clutter them. This is definitely a process –
it can’t happen overnight. We have to trim our responsibilities down to a
manageable level wisely. Then make sure we are only doing what God
wants us to do.
I know this is a big task, which is why I’ve planned it for Friday.
Take the weekend to pray about this, and really seek God’s will.
Remember the lesson from Day 2? Ask God for wisdom and then trust that
He will answer. Don’t doubt. On Monday we are going to deal with the
rest of that master list. I’m going to share a new way to organize your
to-do list that will increase your efficiency ten-fold.
Now – I promised you a giveaway from Karen. To be entered in the giveaway, please leave a comment.
Please do not reply to this email or it will get stuck in my inbox
since I am out of town. To leave a comment, click on the word
“comments” at the bottom. There might be a number in front of it. You
can make a personal declaration of something you are going to remove
from your responsibilities, or just say “I’m in!” Karen will pick a
winner and we’ll announce that winner on Tuesday.
Grace & Peace,
Glynnis
Heavenly Father, I pray for my friends today who are looking at
an overwhelming list of tasks and responsibilities. Please show them
Your will for them at this time in their lives. Give them your
discernment about what to edit from that list and when to do so. And I
ask that You protect them from guilt over saying no, and fill them with
Your confidence. Flood my friends hearts with your supernatural peace
throughout this process. In Jesus name, Amen
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